news item: “My Faith Pulled Me Through”

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Watching Law & Order: Special Victims Unit was a nightly ritual in my house for years. Then we had a baby, and now the show scares the shit out of me because it makes me worry about anything bad happening to Stella, so we have only watched it a couple of times since December! Nevertheless, I am a huge fan of the show, and I especially love Mariska Hargitay’s character, Olivia Benson.

The other day while I was pumping on my work break. I was flipping through a Good Housekeeping magazine that was a few months old (I work in a doctor’s office), and I came across this article about Mariska’s adoption journey. Whoa. I knew that she had adopted two children after having a biological child when she was 42, but I had never really followed the story or known the details.

In My Faith Pulled Me Through, Mariska talks about how incredibly difficult the journey is that adoptive parents go through. She discusses the fears (such as an adoption falling through – which happened to them) and the joys. It really struck me as a great example of how ALI affects people old and young, rich and poor, and its hard on every single one of us.

As a young girl, she was forced to recognize that “mother” didn’t necessarily imply a biological connection. After her own mother, the actress Jayne Mansfield, was tragically killed in a car accident, Hargitay (who was 3½. and in the car’s backseat at the time) and her brothers went to live with their father, bodybuilder-turned-businessman Mickey Hargitay. His third wife, Ellen Siano Hargitay, became his daughter’s mother in every sense of the word. “I called her Mom. She really claimed us. She never had biological kids of her own, and to this day we are her kids.

This article was also interesting to me because I feel like adoption is not often talked about in a “real way,” and I love that her story was highlighted in mainstream media. I know a bit more about adoption because of many of you, but there is still so much I don’t know, and I love that this article highlighted a bit of their journey and didn’t make it sound like all sunshine and roses. *Because, you know, we should all “just adopt” because it’s SOOO easy and there are just so many good kids that need homes.*  Grr.

At any rate, the article ends with this:

“Adoption was a bumpy ride–very bumpy,” she says, as a huge smile lights up her face. “But, God, was it worth the fight.”

So true, right?


For those of you that have adopted a child, what do you think of this article? Was it a good representation of adoption?

If you have not adopted, have you ever considered it? Was it an avenue of family building that was a dream of yours to follow pre-IF, post-IF, or both?

Do you have any great adoption resources that PAIL should know about?

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