featured post – “hungry? try the lasagna.” by Jules

We’re featuring our very own Jules for our feature post today!

Jules wrote an extremely honest and candid piece about body image, post-baby body and body image issues post-baby. We’ve all been there.  Even if we’re the ideal of fit and healthy, a personal trainer, or Nicole Kidman, we all pick apart our body and perceived imperfections.  And then pregnancy, wow talk about a game changer.  I am within the weight range of what is “normal” for me, yet can’t fit into my pre-pregnancy jeans, pregnancy seriously shifted some stuff around on my body. Like, where did this extra stuff on my hips come from? Jules takes us on an honest look at the changes pregnancy can cause to our body and our feelings about our bodies:

“I loved my belly when I was pregnant. I felt like some sort of female goddess warrior princess. But after my c-section, when I finally was allowed out of bed and took that first shower? Oh, man. I cried with a mixture of relief and despair. “I’m finally clean!” / “My body is RUINED FOREVER; I AM DISGUSTING.””

And then Jules gets to what, for me, is the most important point of this post.  It’s no longer about us.  It’s no longer about us and whatever insecurities we have about our bodies:

“…motherhood has reshaped my reality, and that includes my body, which to be honest I’ve never particularly appreciated or treated properly. I’m learning how to do both these days for my own sake, but also for my girls– they’ll never be able to love themselves if the people they love most, like their mother, don’t show them how.”

Because now, we’re Moms.  Our reactions towards our bodies, our attitudes towards food, exercise, body image, etc, are now not just ours alone. Because now we have little eyes taking in and absorbing everything we do and say.  If I’m constantly picking apart my body and stressing over not being “perfect” (whatever that is) my little girl is going to see that. And I’d sooner walk over hot coals then have her inherit body insecurity issues from me. She is going to be exposed to enough of that from our culture as it is.  Even if you are the Mom to boys, this is still important.  Boys learn from their Moms just as much about body image, and they learn what to expect and how to treat the future women in their life, and if you constantly disparage yourself for your son to see, he learns that it’s ok to do that.

As Jules points out, it’s not like we have to be all sunshine and rainbows about our bodies, we can be honest and admit to the things we need to work on, or even things that are fine, but just bother us about our body:

“We will all have moments of trying on that dress for a wedding and we just hate it so hard because it clings to all the wrong places.”

But we have to make a choice. A choice to love ourselves as we are right now, even if “right now” isn’t exactly where we want to be.  We can still love ourselves and project healthy image for our kids.  Because our bodies, transformed by pregnancy, are a testament to the miracles our bodies have wrought.  And those miracles are so worth it.  Please read and comment on Jules’ very thoughtful post, “Hungry? Try the Lasagna.” As always, comments here are closed to encourage you to visit Jules’ blog and share some love.

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