the monday snapshot – Emma

Emma from Emma in Mommyland is going to open up the week for us with her contribution to the The Monday Snapshot – an evolution of the MMM feature, meant to bring the PAIL blogroll to life by giving its members a chance to feature themselves and make new connections. 

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I am so excited to be featured in this week’s Monday Snapshot. I was worried I wouldn’t have anything interesting to share when my week rolled around, but I’m happy to say that wasn’t the case!

My little boy, G, will be one on Wednesday. For the last 12 months I have gone back and forth about throwing a birthday party for him. When we found out we’d be moving into a house in time for his first birthday, I decided to go for it.

The party was on Saturday, three weeks after officially moving into our new house. We had to move boxes to vacant bedrooms and into the garage. At the last-minute, we found out friends of ours would need to crash at our place with their two kids so there was a lot of laundry to be done so they’d have sheets and blankets that didn’t smell musty. I knew I was crazy for throwing a party less than a month after moving, but waiting until April also sounded crazy. I have social anxiety issues; if I was going to do something like this I wanted to get it out-of-the-way sooner rather than later.

My rule for this party: Do.Not.Stress.Out. Not enough food? Order a pizza. Boxes piled up in corners? Meh, we just moved, what should people expect. This party is for a soon-to-be one year old. He doesn’t understand what opening presents means. He doesn’t understand what it means when a bunch of people show up and start playing with his toys. He doesn’t care if I get red balloons or blue. He doesn’t care about a theme. He doesn’t understand that a birthday can be a big deal. So I figured why worry?

I decided to try something that a friend of mine did for her daughter’s first birthday: in lieu of gifts for the birthday kid, bring an item to donate to the NICU.

G spent about four days in the NICU for sepsis and jaundice after he was born and I was not in the right mental state to thank the nurses and doctors in that unit the way I’d have liked, especially a particular doctor and nurse. I hate that I haven’t found the time to send a note or do something to let them know how much I appreciated their help and support during those days. We were fortunate enough to have a full term baby and have all the things we needed for him. Other families don’t get that luxury and find themselves with a baby sooner than expected. When your baby is in the NICU, hooked up to tubes and wires, the last thing you are thinking about is going out shopping for it. By setting up a donation box, we could help out other families who needed it. Something I want G to learn about and practice as he gets older.

Though I asked our guests to bring an item to donate in lieu of a gift for G, many of them did anyway. I opted not to open them at the party (more for my sanity than anything else), so we have been opening a few a day; mostly when G seems interested in poking around the pile.

But! Everyone bought an item to donate, some of them brought several. We collected quite a stash and I honestly can’t wait to take everything to the hospital when I am back in my home town next month.

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Now, get to know a little more about Emma with her answers to the Monday Snapshot “5 Questions”:

1) How long have you been blogging and how did you get started?

I started blogging in December 2010 when I found out I was pregnant with baby #1. My intention was to blog to let my friends and family know how my pregnancy and baby were doing. Little did I know it would be my best form of therapy as I worked through my grief over the loss of baby #1, anxiety of baby #2, and the number of emotions I have as I try to figure out this motherhood thing.

2) Tell us a little about your ALI journey and your family (3-4 sentences):

We found out we lost #1 in an early missed miscarriage. After a D&C and a recovery time that was a little too long, I got pregnant with my son, G. He’s quickly approaching one year and now I’m trying to figure out if I am emotionally ready for another!

3) What makes you unique in the blogging world? (e.g. special talent, rare diagnosis, life experience)?

I like to pole dance for fitness. It’s not just for strippers anymore!

4) One word to describe yourself: 

Indecisive

5) What blog or website (IF or not) would you recommend to others? Why?

Pregnant Chicken – I love her sense of humor. It was a lot of fun reading through her blog when I was pregnant.

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As always, we want to see your Monday Snapshot as well, so please comment below with a link to your post– and of course, go visit  Emma at Emma in Mommyland.

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weekly summary, vol. 41

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  • Tracy started out the week for us by featuring our very own Jules! I don’t know about you but I can never get enough ‘Chicken and Ham.’ Check out Jules and her adorable girls and see everyone else’s Monday Snapshots!
  • Josey shared a news article highlighting a changing view on food and allergies for kids. Check out the article and definitely read the comments for some insight from parents who have allergies/kids with allergies. I’m definitely buying some children’s Benadryl, great tip!

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news item: food allergy advice for kids

Okay, I will be the first to admit that food allergies for kids is something that has never really been on my radar. My husband and I have no history of food allergies in our families, so I suppose it’s one of those dangers that hasn’t felt very real to me. I had heard the general “avoid shell fish, eggs, nuts and honey until 1 year of age” advice from our pediatrician, and other than that, I am (still) clueless. Also, I am the Mom whose kid was eating eggs daily for breakfast at seven months (which I had honestly forgotten was not recommended until I started writing this post – I knew I introduced yolks only at 6 months and then whites for a reason) and devouring cocktail shrimp at a friend’s party at 10 months old, and it wasn’t until someone commented that I “must not be worried about shell fish allergies” that it occurred to me that shrimp was a shell fish. My husband also recently revealed that he has been routinely giving our daughter bites of his peanut butter sandwich since she was around 11 months old. Oops. Basically, we were 1 for 4 on remembering the recommendations of foods to delay introducing before one year of age.

That being said, I’m also learning that there are parents out there whose kids have very real allergies to certain foods who cannot just “forget” to be vigilant about those foods – and that those allergies were discovered at a young age. This makes me quite curious to hear their opinions on this article in the Wall Street Journal that I came across last week.

Parents trying to navigate the confusing world of children’s food allergies now have more specific advice to consider. Highly allergenic foods such as peanut butter, fish and eggs can be introduced to babies between 4 and 6 months and may even play a role in preventing food allergies from developing.

Say what? First off, most parents I know don’t even introduce solid foods until at least six months, but that’s a whole ‘nuther bag of worms. Maybe the writer was just trying to make a point that you can introduce those foods earlier than one year of age? It goes on to say:

“There’s been more studies that find that if you introduce them early it may actually prevent food allergy,” said David Fleischer, co-author of the article and a pediatric allergist at National Jewish Health in Denver. “We need to get the message out now to pediatricians, primary-care physicians and specialists that these allergenic foods can be introduced early.”

It’s always a bit startling and concerning to me when two respected organizations (like the American Academy of Allergy, Asthma & Immunology (AAAAI) and the American Academy of Pediatrics) issue conflicting statements. Who do you believe?

Obviously there is still a lot of research being done on this particular topic, but it gets me thinking about a few things…

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Did/do you delay introducing common allergenic foods to your kid(s)? Why/why not?

Does your child(ren) have any allergies to foods? If so, how do you protect them from people (like me) who know so little about the dangers of certain foods?

How do you decide which recommendations to follow when there are conflicting schools of thought about an issue like this?

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featured post: “join the movement” by RESOLVE

I am going in a different direction this week and featuring a post from an organization rather than a blogger. Why? Because this is important.

National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW), organized by RESOLVE, is almost upon us. This year, the week of April 21-27 will be the time to shine to spotlight on the millions of people living with infertility in the hopes of bringing awareness to the many facets of this disease to the general public. There are many ways to get involved in changing the conversation about infertility and we encourage you to check out the NIAW page at RESOLVE to find something you can do.

If you are reading this, you are probably a blogger and/or reader of blogs. RESOLVE does a fantastic job of recognizing and supporting the blogging community and its role in discussing the far-reaching effects of infertility and reducing the stigma of this disease. The Bloggers Unite challenge is my favourite part of NIAW (being up here in Canada means there are precious few events, if any for me to participate in) as it provides a writing prompt for bloggers to run with. I first became aware of this during the 2011 “Bust a Myth” campaign, posting a link (to the sound of crickets) on my Facebook page. Last year, I wrote an entry for the “Don’t Ignore” prompt in one of my first public discussions of the lasting emotional impact of infertility and loss. You may recall that we featured Holly from Ready To Be A Mom here when she won the Hope Award for Best Blog from RESOLVE following last year’s challenge.

This year, the Bloggers Unite prompt is “Join the Movement…”

The goal of this year’s Blog Challenge is to bring together bloggers to talk about how you are making the difference in ways large and small in the lives of people with infertility. Topics covered in your blog post can include how you broke the silence of infertility in your life, how you advocated for the infertility community, how you advocated for yourself, or how you created a support community to help you through the infertility journey.

In scrolling through the entries from 2011 and 2012, I was surprised to see that I had never heard of the majority of blogs participating. There are pages and pages and pages of posts. This community is huge and varied. Our voices matter. Your voice matters.

We wholeheartedly encourage you to Join the Movement this year for NIAW. There are so many ways to go with this prompt. For more information on how you can get involved in this challenge, please follow these links:

Be sure to check back with RESOLVE to submit your post and visit all the other bloggers. Join the movement!

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the monday snapshot – Jules

Jules from Two Pink Tulips is going to open up the week for us with her contribution to the The Monday Snapshot – an evolution of the MMM feature, meant to bring the PAIL blogroll to life by giving its members a chance to feature themselves and make new connections. 

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We’re enjoying a lot of what I call the “weird toddler phase” around here. If I leave clean laundry out to fold, I can almost guarantee that within five minutes at least one of my girls will be wearing a pair of underwear around her neck. I don’t know what it is that compels them to do this since they’re always taking their bibs off, but it’s pretty hilarious. They do a lot of baby yoga too– legit downward dog, which I did not teach them. This adorable quirkiness is why I love toddlers– and it’s what keeps me going through those “good golly, pleeeeease stop pulling on my clothes!” days.

I couldn’t pick just one photo but didn’t want to clog up the page, so the photo below is a selection of moments from the past week that I thought were particularly funny. (In the bottom right photo, that’s Ham walking in circles stepping on our multicolored cutting board set.) I’m curious about what odd little habits your toddlers have picked up as well. I can’t tell if this is a normal amount of weird or if my girls are just genetically predisposed to being strange kids with funny, nerdy parents 😉

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Now, get to know a little more about Jules with her answers to the Monday Snapshot “5 Questions”:

1) How long have you been blogging and how did you get started?

I started my current blog almost three years ago, about a year and a half after M & I started TTC. Before that, though, I’ve had a succession of blogs and journals on various platforms dating back to when I was sixteen or so, which is about how long I’ve had regular access to the internet. I’ve had up to three different online journals at once, which of course gets a little convoluted when you’re saying pretty much the same things on each one. Since I first started this blog, I’ve been down to two, and I only maintain the other to have access to a list of other friends-only bloggers who I’ve known for years.

2) Tell us a little about your ALI journey and your family (3-4 sentences):

M & I decided we were ready to try to conceive on Christmas Day, 2008, five months after we got married. It was nearly three years later that our delicious little Chicken and Ham were born! We had no luck trying on our own or with Clomid, but our first round of Gonal-F injectables and third IUI was a success. Our lucky ladies were born on 11/11/11 and are now fourteen months old!

3) What makes you unique in the blogging world? (e.g. special talent, rare diagnosis, life experience)?

Haha. Um… nothing? I have a typical IF-to-pregnant-to-mommyblogger thing going, I suppose. I do try to maintain a balance of photo posts, funny posts and ranty posts (it’s in my nature to argue; better I get it out on my blog!) and I think I have a decent sense of accessibility in my self-depricating and honest humor.

4) One word to describe yourself: 

Saucy

5) What blog or website (IF or not) would you recommend to others? Why?

I love April’s blog Have a Banner Day. She is an IFer, but her blog is less about that than it is about her daily life with her family. She has a different voice than a lot of blogs I’ve read, which is really refreshing, and I’ve learned a lot from her. Her youngest child is within a few days of my girls’ age, and he’s had a pretty difficult but inspiring journey so far. April gives me a whole new understanding of and appreciation for parents of children with special needs. I sat in the library with my girls for story time last week and listened to a book that read, “Every baby, as everybody knows, has ten little fingers and ten little toes!” and thought, “Well, no. No they don’t.”

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As always, we want to see your Monday Snapshot as well, so please comment below with a link to your post– and of course, go visit  Jules at Two Pink Tulips.

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