september 2013 monthly theme – why we blog

When I started my blog, it was a place to post pictures and hilarious anecdotes about my kid because I had quit Facebook.  I had been secretly reading IF blogs when I was pregnant with him, hoping to find someone mirroring the difficult emotions I was feeling not only being pregnant after experiencing infertility and miscarriages, but also how to cope when you are pregnant and your infertile friend is not. I found a few people that today I call my friends. These people saved my life.

And then… then I starting to write about my journey on my very public, very NOT anonymous blog. I needed to get some of that agonizing weight off my chest. I needed the people in my life to see it. I needed to be recognized. I needed to come out of the shadows. When the PAIL blogroll was first started, I added the button so quickly you would think my life had depended on it. Which honestly, at the time, it did. Even through all of the difficulty in getting this niche space together, I felt very strongly that this space had VALUE. I still do. I always will.

Each of us here at PAIL has a different interpretation of our mission statement. Mine has always been “Just keep talking.” Just keep talking. Or don’t. Or just listen. Or close up shop and move on in a different way. Every path to resolution is valid, as is every path we take with our blogs. You need to do what you need to do to process, to move forward, to heal from this. When I say “just keep talking” I suppose what I mean is that I think it is a disservice to the community as a whole to not talk about what it feels like, IS like, when the baby comes home.  We need to be able to find people further down the path to follow, to lead us through the tough spots, to hold our hands, to cheer us on, to understand.

I am not one to blog about blogging. To be honest, I usually skip posts about it. Ah, but then I entered Blog Identity Crisis #187346 and started to really, genuinely think about my space and what I want to do with it now that I am (99%) sure that family building is behind me. It’s a tricky place to be in, when you feel resolved in your heart, but you aren’t sure how to let go. But I’ll write more about that on my own blog in my submission for this month’s theme.

Suggested Writing Prompts

  • Did you start blogging before, during, or after your journey though infertility/loss/adoption? 
  • Why did you start blogging? What has kept you blogging?
  • When you became a parent did you transition your blog or start a new space? What were your reasons for doing so? How do you feel about your decision now?
  • Have you ever felt pressure to blog about certain things and not others? What influences your writing, if anything?
  • What did you hope to achieve by blogging? Do you feel that you have done this?
  • Why is blogging important to you NOW?
  • What value do you see in blogging the “after”? 

As always, these questions are just a guide. Please feel free to write anything and everything you would like to on this topic in whichever way suits you best. If you have previously written on this topic, feel free to link away in your post, or submit any previous post on the topic as you see fit. And of course, if you do not have a blog of your own, we are happy to hear your thoughts in the comments and will link to your comment in the full post list for all to read.

Entries for this month’s theme are due Thursday, September 26th at midnight, EST. The full list of links will go live on Friday, September 27th.

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the monday snapshot – Glenna Marie

Glenna Marie of 20 something going on 40 is going to open up the week for us with her contribution to the The Monday Snapshot – an evolution of the MMM feature, meant to bring the PAIL blogroll to life by giving its members a chance to feature themselves and make new connections. 

If you would like to be featured on The Monday Snapshot, please sign-up here!

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Hey y’all! I’m Glenna and I write at 20 Something Going On 40. The last couple years have been very hard on my heart and especially recently after losing my twins. But I am happy to say that currently in my life my husband and I are preparing to try again for a baby. We will be doing IVF for the second time and I’m very excited! Praying for exciting times ahead!

GlennaMarie

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Now, get to know a little more about Glenna with her answers to the Monday Snapshot “5 Questions”:

1) How long have you been blogging and how did you get started?

I have been blogging for a little over a year after I lost my daughter. It has just become a release for me. It lets me get what I have in my head out in front of me for me to face head on.

2) Tell us a little about your ALI journey and your family (3-4 sentences):

I have 3 babies that are all passed. 1 girl and 2 boys. I have 2 loving dogs and an amazing husband. This journey is a nightmare but it’s mine.

3) What makes you unique in the blogging world? (e.g. special talent, rare diagnosis, life experience)?

I believe the thing that makes me unique is suffering these losses at such a young age. And not only suffering loss but suffering through infertility as well. I feel that these experiences have made me feel a lot older than I am. Also I think my journey even before pregnancy. I.e. going through cervical cancer at 19, endometriosis, PCOS, and PID. These are all things I have dealt with and it hasn’t been an easy road.

4) One word to describe yourself: 

Adaptive

5) What blog or website (IF or not) would you recommend to others? Why?

A blog or website I often turn to would be ʺA Bed For My Heartʺ I found her on face book. The reason why I like it so much is because If I can’t figure out how to explain how I’m feeling or I’m feeling really alone I can turn there and realize that I’m not and that I am just another normal grieving mother.

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As always, we want to see your Monday Snapshot as well, so please comment below with a link to your post– and of course, go visit Glenna Marie of 20 something going on 40.

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