the monday snapshot – Esperanza

Esperanza of Stumbling Gracefully is going to open up the week for us with her contribution to the The Monday Snapshot – an evolution of the MMM feature, meant to bring the PAIL blogroll to life by giving its members a chance to feature themselves and make new connections. 

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This weekend my partner, daughter and I indulged in one last hurrah as family of three (we are expecting our second child next month). We trekked down to the Monterey Bay Aquarium on Saturday and then stopped at the Santa Cruz Beach Boardwalk on our way home Sunday. Osita loved both special days and we all had a great time. This was one of my favorite shots of the weekend: Osita in awe over all the fish and–her absolute favorite–the “scuvadivers.” It’s such a wonder to see the world through a three year old’s eyes.

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Now, get to know a little more about Esperanza with her answers to the Monday Snapshot “5 Questions”:

1) How long have you been blogging and how did you get started?

I’ve been blogging for four years. I started after I suffered an ectopic, six months into TTC#1, when I realized I needed more than the FertilityFriend forums.

2) Tell us a little about your ALI journey and your family (3-4 sentences):

I grew up with my mom’s horrendous story of IF and loss (one neo-natal loss and three stillbirths) and we shared a mysterious lack of menstruation so I expected to have issues and started TTC in my late 20s. While it only took us a year (and one ectopic) to have our first child, we were diagnosed with DOR (AMH of .49) and MFI trying to conceive our second. Despite being given a 3% chance of conceiving on our own, we turned to acupuncture, a TCM diet and supplements and got pregnant with our second child, due this October.

3) What makes you unique in the blogging world? (e.g. special talent, rare diagnosis, life experience)?

I suppose I’m unique because I grew up with adoption, loss and infertility and that legacy affects my own journey greatly. My parents placed a daughter for adoption ten years before I was born, so I have an older sister I’ve never met and a younger sister whose grave I grew up visiting. I suppose it’s also rare to receive two IF diagnoses when trying for a second child.

4) One word to describe yourself: 

prolix

5) What blog or website (IF or not) would you recommend to others? Why?

The Faces of ALI series by Jjiraffe at Too Many Fish to Fry because I think it’s a really important project, created to present the infinite ways infertility and loss affect this community.

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the monday snapshot – Jules

Jules of The Quest for Little Lambies. is going to open up the week for us with her contribution to the The Monday Snapshot – an evolution of the MMM feature, meant to bring the PAIL blogroll to life by giving its members a chance to feature themselves and make new connections. 

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Hi PAIL Bloggers!

I’m Jules, and I blog at The Quest for Little Lambies. Right now my 10 month old daughter Iyla (pronounced “Eye-La”) Grace is definitely keeping me busy and on my toes! She is at such a fun age, where it seems every single day brings some kind of new adventure. Most recently? She has decided to boycott her afternoon naps, which is super awesome. ; )

I am a Realtor and cut back on work once Iyla was born, so am now managing my own business- taking clients on a case by case basis while primarily caring for Iyla. One fun factoid is that in February of 2012- one month before we got pregnant- I was featured in an HGTV “House Hunters” episode with buyer clients of mine. So much fun!

I am working hard to maintain a sense of balance- nurturing myself, my business, my relationship with my husband, and this little family we’ve created. It is a constant labor of love and definitely a challenge! My blog has evolved from a snapshot of our infertility journey to a documentation of mine and Iyla’s lives- sort of an online baby book for her that I hope she enjoys turning back to when she is older

Jules

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Now, get to know a little more about with her answers to the Monday Snapshot “5 Questions”:

1) How long have you been blogging and how did you get started?

I’ve been blogging almost 3 years, and began as an outlet for our infertility journey. We were in the thick of it when I began the blog- about 22 months into the 3 years it took to get pregnant. Reading other women’s blogs who had walked this difficult walk had always given me a sense of hope and community, and I have been so touched by the women who follow my own blog & have been cheering me on from the beginning.

2) Tell us a little about your ALI journey and your family (3-4 sentences):

I met my husband in 2005 on a blind date from Match.com (it worked!). We wanted to wait a year after our 2008 wedding to start a family, foolishly thinking it would happen quickly for us. It ended up taking us almost 3 years to finally conceive. Those 3 years involved countless cycles with Clomid, Femara, & IUI’s, a laparoscopic surgery that revealed and cleared Stage 3 Endometriosis, 2 Gonal-F injectables cycles- the first of which we conceived but sadly lost the pregnancy early on- and then miracle of miracles, after our 2nd injectables cycle failed we discovered we were pregnant the following cycle, without any interventions. I was absolutely floored, in shock, and overjoyed!

3) What makes you unique in the blogging world? (e.g. special talent, rare diagnosis, life experience)?

One unique bent to my blog that was documented while TTC were the countless psychics & clairvoyants I visited to give me some hope in the midst of despair. They were often the only light at the end of the infertility journey for me. And amazingly enough, many ‘saw’ a strong little girl waiting to come to us, and predicted she would be here by the end of 2012. Which- when my 2nd injectables cycle failed in February of 2012 and I was told by my RE I had to take a month off before trying again- totally saw me swearing off those psychics saying they had ALL been wrong! And then we got pregnant, and had our little girl in November of 2012.

4) One word to describe yourself: 

Resilient

5) What blog or website (IF or not) would you recommend to others? Why?

I’ve always loved Jesica at “Just Smile and Blog.” She has been on a very similar journey, and had her son in August of 2012- so has always been an excellent snapshot of the upcoming months of pregnancy & child development for me. She also writes in such a candid, honest way that really connects with the reader. Definitely worth checking out!

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the monday snapshot – D

D of My Life is About the Journey is going to open up the week for us with her contribution to the The Monday Snapshot – an evolution of the MMM feature, meant to bring the PAIL blogroll to life by giving its members a chance to feature themselves and make new connections. 

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Hi friends!  I’m D.  Still keeping it anonymous at the moment since I tend to divulge a little too much information that I’d rather not have my grandma read (yes, she has a Facebook page!).  Going through several miscarriages prompted me to stop one of my life’s passions, running.  No, it was never found that my running caused any of my miscarriages, but I pretty much walked on eggshells during the pregnancy with my son and didn’t so much as eat a slice of lunchmeat.  I wasn’t taking any chances.

Now that I’ve had my son, I’ve started running again, and let me tell you, it ain’t pretty.   Before pee-sticks, ultrasounds, and diapers were even a thought, I was racing several times a month, including half and full marathons.  I even regularly placed in my age group.  After the birth of my miracle baby in April, and almost 2 years of no running, I have become a super slow version of my former running self.  Finding the time to run is another issue because, well, there is never enough.  Finding the energy…ummm, that goes without saying.

My old self would have not have even bothered a run if it wasn’t at least 5 miles at a 7:30 pace.  My new self will take a two miler with baby in the B.O.B, period.  My old self would run 6 days a week.  My new self will take what I can get.  My old self loved the solace of running alone.  My new self loves running with my happily squealing baby in tow.  It is amazingly awesome that I can now experience one of my favorite pastimes with my newest little love, and he doesn’t care how fast I am.  He just wants to cruise with his momma.

D

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Now, get to know a little more about with her answers to the Monday Snapshot “5 Questions”:

1) How long have you been blogging and how did you get started?

I started blogging back in April of 2012. I was fresh off of my third consecutive miscarriage and had been searching the internet frantically for women who had gone through similar issues. I felt very hopeless and was convinced that I would never be able to have a baby. I found the blog of one girl who had several miscarriages and had gone on to have a successful pregnancy. I found her blog so comforting. I read through all of her old posts in one night. She inspired me to start my own blog about my experience in hopes that I could help give someone hope in the future.

2) Tell us a little about your ALI journey and your family (3-4 sentences):

I miscarried 3 pregnancies from August 2011-March 2012 and sought the help of a RE who ran many tests (including karyotyping on my husband and I) and found nothing wrong with me (or him). I had very long cycles, so the RE put me on Femara to regulate ovulation, which ended up helping me attain a successful pregnancy on the 3rd cycle. My little miracle boy was born on 4/18/13 and is the light of our lives!

3) What makes you unique in the blogging world? (e.g. special talent, rare diagnosis, life experience)?

Having 3 consecutive miscarriages in itself is pretty rare, or so I thought before I started writing my blog. I think writing about this topic in conjunction with my level of openness and honesty is what makes me unique. I took a very serious topic and chronicled my journey in great detail. It is so amazing that I have connected with so many other women who have gone through similar events. I have gotten several emails from women who write to say that I have helped to give them hope. This makes me feel like writing the blog was worth it!

4) One word to describe yourself: 

Determined

5) What blog or website (IF or not) would you recommend to others? Why?

I could recommend Waiting to Expand. I found Cassie’s blog right when I first started writing my blog. I love that her posts are full of emotion and she shares so many of the details of her struggles with loss and infertility and talks about complicated and tough subjects.

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the monday snapshot – Glenna Marie

Glenna Marie of 20 something going on 40 is going to open up the week for us with her contribution to the The Monday Snapshot – an evolution of the MMM feature, meant to bring the PAIL blogroll to life by giving its members a chance to feature themselves and make new connections. 

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Hey y’all! I’m Glenna and I write at 20 Something Going On 40. The last couple years have been very hard on my heart and especially recently after losing my twins. But I am happy to say that currently in my life my husband and I are preparing to try again for a baby. We will be doing IVF for the second time and I’m very excited! Praying for exciting times ahead!

GlennaMarie

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Now, get to know a little more about Glenna with her answers to the Monday Snapshot “5 Questions”:

1) How long have you been blogging and how did you get started?

I have been blogging for a little over a year after I lost my daughter. It has just become a release for me. It lets me get what I have in my head out in front of me for me to face head on.

2) Tell us a little about your ALI journey and your family (3-4 sentences):

I have 3 babies that are all passed. 1 girl and 2 boys. I have 2 loving dogs and an amazing husband. This journey is a nightmare but it’s mine.

3) What makes you unique in the blogging world? (e.g. special talent, rare diagnosis, life experience)?

I believe the thing that makes me unique is suffering these losses at such a young age. And not only suffering loss but suffering through infertility as well. I feel that these experiences have made me feel a lot older than I am. Also I think my journey even before pregnancy. I.e. going through cervical cancer at 19, endometriosis, PCOS, and PID. These are all things I have dealt with and it hasn’t been an easy road.

4) One word to describe yourself: 

Adaptive

5) What blog or website (IF or not) would you recommend to others? Why?

A blog or website I often turn to would be ʺA Bed For My Heartʺ I found her on face book. The reason why I like it so much is because If I can’t figure out how to explain how I’m feeling or I’m feeling really alone I can turn there and realize that I’m not and that I am just another normal grieving mother.

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the monday snapshot – Jessica (jjiraffe)

Jessica of Too Many Fish to Fry is going to open up the week for us with her contribution to the The Monday Snapshot – an evolution of the MMM feature, meant to bring the PAIL blogroll to life by giving its members a chance to feature themselves and make new connections. 

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Hi PAIL bloggers!

I’m Jessica, and I blog at Too Many Fish To Fry. Right now I am both mourning and celebrating the fact that my twins started kindergarten. They are no longer my babies, but I am so proud of the children they are becoming. It’s bittersweet. Here they are on the first day of school with my husband who I call Darcy (I am a Jane Austen fan), ready to start their journey as schoolchildren. Sob!! I’ve needed a lot of kleenex this week…

Jessica

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Now, get to know a little more about Jessica with her answers to the Monday Snapshot “5 Questions”:

1) How long have you been blogging and how did you get started?

I started blogging in 2010 after a miscarriage. My husband works in the blogging industry and he’d been talking about bloggers for a while. I was in bed recovering and typed ʺinfertility blogsʺ into Google using a laptop, and discovered Stirrup Queens. I started my blog a few days later. It was a seminal moment in my life: suddenly, I discovered a whole group of women who understood who I was.

2) Tell us a little about your ALI journey and your family (3-4 sentences):

I have five year old twins, thanks to science. Specifically: three IVF attempts. I consider myself incredibly lucky to have my smart, funny, creative, articulate and beautiful son and daughter in my life. I also have a husband who reminds everyone of Mr. Darcy. He’s deliciously rude, haughty and romantic.

3)What makes you unique in the blogging world? (e.g. special talent, rare diagnosis, life experience)?

I don’t think there’s anything particularly unique about my story or my blog, but my ʺFaces of ALIʺ series seems to have found an audience. ʺFaces of ALIʺ was written in response to some particularly horrible articles in The New York Times portraying infertility as a problem affecting the rich and whimsical only. My series tells the stories of ordinary yet extraordinary people going through infertility and loss with hope and grace. And it will be a book very soon!!

4) One word to describe yourself: 

Romantic

5) What blog or website (IF or not) would you recommend to others? Why?

I love so many IF blogs. So: here’s some of my other favorites!  – The NieNie Dialogues. Stephanie Nielson was a mother of four who was burned over 80% of her body in a plane crash. What she did next (survive with beauty, grace and resilience) is continuously inspiring to me. Her book is fantastic too.  – Heidi Swanson is my favorite mainstream food blogger, hands down. (Justine Levine’s A Half-Baked Life is my all time fave.) Her food is vegetarian, healthy and delicious.  – Design Sponge: Grace Bonney and co make life more beautiful, one hipster home at a time.  The Sartorialist: the best street fashion.

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