Every once in a while, I stumble upon a blog post that hits me in the gut – hard. It’s posts like this one from Kasey of MacKronoicles that motivate me to be the best mother I can be. Why? Because she’s honest and her relationship with her son’s parents is respectful and familial. Talking and living OA as an extension of family is something I LOVE and wish existed in more adoptions.
While everything is GREAT with the relationship we have with our birth family I do have fears of how our daughter will feel when she’s older and wants to have that conversation with her birth mother about why she was placed. That is a conversation I know will be hard for her to hear and harder for her birth mother to talk about, and hell while we’re at it, HARD for me to watch her have. But – they get to have that conversation because of the work we all put into making our family close. It doesn’t happen this way for everyone, but I think Kacey’s post is a good reminder that fear is always present in adoption but the love we have for OUR child always comes first.
I truly believe that you have to hear everyone’s voice when considering domestic adoption and this post by Kasey is probably one of the best I’ve read in a while.
I hope you will always know that it does not matter what anyone else thinks about your adoption and our family. It doesn’t matter what your future classmates think, what people on the internet think, what people who write movies/TV shows think, or what the guy at the grocery store thinks. It only matters what YOU think. I hope you never feel ashamed to tell someone you are adopted, but I also hope you never feel like you have to explain your adoption to everyone…
ALL OF THAT
Head over to Kasey’s kick-ass post “The most important things I want you to know about our open adoption“.
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Kasey is a wife and mother of two boys, the oldest placed in a wide open adoption. Further self-definitions are still in progress and can be found chronicled at mackronicles.wordpress.com.