featured post: ‘lucky’ by unruffled lanie

Last week, a reader emailed me this post from Unruffled Lanie and it really made me smile. Truly, warmly smile. I wish that I had read something like this when I was (finally, for keeps) pregnant to remind myself that in spite of all the fear and anxiety, it was okay to feel joy, to feel lucky, to feel blessed.

The reader who submitted it said “I really love how even after a very difficult IF journey, Lanie is writing about feelings of HOPE and HAPPINESS during her pregnancy instead of fear… to remind us all to stop and smell the roses.”

Here is just a little of what Lanie has to say:

I just have to take that all in. There I sat, in the same place, the same girl but with a big bloated belly so uncomfortable that I need to unbutton my pants while I relax in my car (and sometimes forget to re button). So I just had to say to myself as goosebumps came over me “THIS is the moment you’ve been praying for! It’s going to be okay”. I have no worries except if I can finish my third taco. No worries! It. feels. so. good.  I’m actually excited about my 12 week appointments this week and for my NT scan. Not scared. Excited. Happy. Feeling lucky and blessed.

Please head over to Unruffled Lanie to read the rest of ‘Lucky’  and be reminded to be mindful, no matter where you find yourself sitting.

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featured post: ‘waves crashing’ by metholic’s blog

In her post, “waves crashing” at Metholic’s Blog, Chandra paints a stirring picture of how pregnancy after infertility reminds her of her deep love of growing up near the ocean, and how that love was tempered by the one time she was struck by a freak tidal wave.

Chandra has beautifully described both the elation and the fear of pregnancy after infertility and foster-parenting – the ebb and flow of worry and relief. Of joy and anxiety.

I wouldn’t let myself say “when the baby comes” but instead would say “when/if the baby comes”.  Because I couldn’t set myself up for that pain, I couldn’t just assume I was going to get a live healthy baby out of this.  I had to be on guard for a tidal wave.

I worry too about after the baby is here  … The focus has been for years to get to one thing: healthy, live, baby.  That is all you can think about, just get to that point and then you can breathe, then you can let it go, then you can just be a parent.  But with the women I’ve talked with, this isn’t the case.  It doesn’t just all magically go away.  And your brain, so focused, for so long, on just getting to the ‘baby’ part of it, doesn’t know what to do now that baby is here…Because for so long your anchor, your reality, was infertility, it became part of your identity, and now that identity is gone or at least drastically changed, which you are thankful for, but that doesn’t mean that it’s suddenly ‘all-better’.  You could still be cut, bruised, scarred.

Please head over to Metholic’s Blog to read the rest of Chandra’s powerful post about her experience of pregnancy after infertility and loss. Comments on this thread will be closed in an effort for you to connect with Chandra directly and share your thoughts with her.

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