Why are you so mean to me lately? Why are you so mad all the time? It must be hard to be so mad all the time. I feel sorry for you that you’re like that.
Um, yeah, that was what my husband said to me last night after I snapped at him for the millionth time about something he didn’t do “right” when it came to something our daughter needed done…something I needed done. What I wanted to say was “I’m tired, I don’t feel well, I had a long day at work, and I don’t want to have to re-do what you just did because I know you are capable of doing it right if you just listen to my instructions” — but what came out instead was a petulant “whatever, I am not.”
Honestly, what I’ve been feeling lately is a lack of connection with my husband, and since I haven’t made it a priority to have some “us” time and to talk about issues and reconnect on mental/physical/emotional levels, instead it has reared it’s ugly head as bitchiness. We’ve both been so busy lately between travel, work, and parenting… and sadly the “us” has sort of fallen by the wayside.
Last week, one of our PAIL Blogroll members sent us this link, and it definitely piqued our interest. It’s just a quick blurb, but the premise is this – we do a lot of talking about our relationship with our kids, but not so much talking about our relationship with our significant others. The author of Someone should write about this writes about a lot of feminist topics, and whether or not you consider yourself to be a feminist, there’s a lot of truth to the fact that it’s HARD to nurture your relationship with your significant other in the same way as you did pre-children.
So what do you think? Check out the article above and come back and share your thoughts!
How is your relationship with your significant other now that there are kids in the mix?
Has it changed for the better? For worse?
Do you find it hard to talk about?
Do you do anything in particular to focus on your relationship with him/her as much as your relationship with your child(ren)?