december 2012 – balancing life, work, and parenthood

Following is the list of contributors to the December Monthly Theme post. Thanks so much to everyone who participated – there truly is no one “right way” find balance, but hopefully the nuggets of wisdom contained herein will give you ideas and/or give you peace about how you are making it all work, and as SRB said in her post, “Wherever the grass looks greener, somebody still has to mow it. Make sure you take a minute to sit on your porch and enjoy your lawn. Or something.” Right?! ūüôā

Suggested Writing Prompts:

  • Are you working outside the home with little one(s) at home? How do you balance the two? Does your partner work outside the home as well?
  • Did you start working outside the home postpartum and decide it wasn‚Äôt for you?
  • What factored into your decision to stay home, work from home, or work outside the home?
  • Did you get that baby in your arms and never go back? How do you balance your responsibilities at home when you‚Äôre on call 24/7?
  • Did you start out staying at home and decide you needed/wanted to go back? How did you handle those emotions?
  • How did you find the balance that works for you while being a SAHM/WAHM/WOHM?

Contributing Bloggers:

  • Lulu¬†@ The Wild Rumpus¬†wrote a post¬†reflecting on her “previous life” as a yoga teacher in an effort to find balance.
  • Missy @ My Scarlet Baby¬†says “There is no end-state of perfect balance, but a constant process of self-correction when we are leaning too much in any direction,¬†in her post, “Doing it all?
  • A left her thoughts about finding balance in a comment on our original post – check it out here!
  • Chon @ Life¬†Begins¬†has this to say about her post: ¬†‘This past week I have had to make decisions about my eventual return to work and how it is going to impact my future. I was surprised by the fact that after all these years I was excited about working.”
  • Traathy @ Happily Ever After¬†talks about finally coming to the realization that when you become a mom it is okay to admit that staying home just isn’t your *thing* in her post about balance.
  • Jen @ The Chronicles of Violetta Margarita¬†says her post, “Balance,” is “a¬†bit of a ramble on [her] plans for when it’s time to go back to work.”
  • Iveta @ Little Livi says “My post is about a very difficult decision I was just faced with after becoming unemployed during a one year maternity leave in Canada” in her post, “When working doesn’t work.”
  • Maggie Lukes @ iMags¬†says “I wrote this last month, all about how I struggle with working 32 hours a week, and having 6 year old twins- mostly it’s about my own conflicting feelings about it, which I’m sure, are probably familiar to any working mom” about her post, “Crazy pills and Ginger Rogers.”
  • Kalyn @ The Kasun Family¬†tells us that her post, “Working Mom,” discusses why she chose to be a working mom.
  • Josey @ My Cheap Version of Therapy talks about how hard it is to not let the “life” ball fall when so much focus goes into Parenting and Work in “Balance.”
  • missohkay @¬†The misadventures of missohkay¬†says “If life were The Sims, I’d be failing; since it’s not, I’m hanging in there.” in her post “Balance? I laugh in the face of balance.”
  • Kristen @¬†Buck Up, Buttercup¬†wrote “a post about trying to balance twins, part-time work from home, marriage, writing, “me time,” and household demands–lots of help and prioritizing are key!”
  • Emily @ Emskyrooney¬†talks about “a¬†history of my time as a working mom as I transition to being a stay at home mom…” in her post, “Out of Work.
  • Gemini Momma @¬†Three Geminis and a Sagittarius¬†wrote a post entitled, “I don’t,” in which she fields the question “How do you do it all?” with the simple answer, “I don’t.”
  • SRB¬†@ Little Chicken Nuggets¬†discusses her current lack of balance as a SAHM, and something about a gardener? … in her post, “wherever the grass is greener, it ain’t gonna mow itself.”
  • April¬†@ R. Sativus¬†says “Just because it’s sunshine and rainbows now doesn’t mean it’s always been that way” about¬†her post.
  • mandski @ full bed¬†says “I don’t have it all, but I have more than enough” in her post,¬†“Making it Work.”
  • Jules¬†@ Two Pink Tulips¬†wrote her post “Having it All,” and says “Try to be the Hostess with the SAHMostess.”
  • No Baby Ruth¬†@ No Baby Ruth¬†says, “In trying to find the right way to balance my life, I look to my mom for inspiration” — about her post, “Following in Her Footsteps.”
  • Rhianna @ Arch Mama¬†wrote a post entitled, “On Balance, Motherhood” in which she discusses her attempt to discover balance in motherhood by quitting her job, but ultimately reveals, in a spectacular display of irony, that balance is probably just another stupid urban legend.
  • Ms. Future PharmD @ Mom PharmD¬†wrote in her post, “Balance,” about how sometimes you just have to fake it.
  • slese1014¬†@ Mommyhood after Fertility Frustration¬†— wrote about how she is trying to keep all of her “Spinning Plates” in balance, and how TTC#2 is throwing another plate in the air.

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december 2012 – monthly theme post – balancing life, work, and parenthood

FYI, this month’s theme post is our first ever reader submitted topic! If you have a great idea for a Monthly Theme Post topic, Featured Post, or News Item¬†for us to discuss, we would love to hear from you as well!

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In late October, PAIL Bloggers received an email from S of Misconceptions about Conception. She wrote:

I would love to read a post (and the comments that would follow) about how we all cope with the stressors and feelings of being not-quite-enough that come with new(ish) parenthood.

We sent her a few links from our archives, but nothing quite fit the bill…

I’m thinking more of adjustment to parenthood past the immediate postpartum period. I feel like a lot gets written about the first few months after the baby is born, but I rarely read any practical advice for juggling work and a baby once the baby is 9 months old, or a year old, or 2. . . or realistic ways for managing the stress that comes with trying to fulfill multiple roles.¬†It seems that [the posts we sent her to review], like most I’ve read, are aimed more at that early postpartum period. I was hoping to maybe see a post from a working mom with a child over 6 months old and her (and others’) thoughts on doing it all.

So what do you think? Have you figured out how to “do it all?”¬†SAHM/WAHM/WOHM (and Dads!) are all encouraged to participate!

Suggested Writing Prompts:

  • Are you working outside the home with little one(s) at home? How do you balance the two? Does your partner work outside the home as well?
  • Did you start working outside the home postpartum and decide it wasn’t for you?
  • What factored into your decision to stay home, work from home, or work outside the home?
  • Did you get that baby in your arms and never go back? How do you balance your responsibilities at home when you’re on call 24/7?
  • Did you start out staying at home and decide you needed/wanted to go back? How did you handle those emotions?
  • How did you find the balance that works for you while being a SAHM/WAHM/WOHM?

Feel free to write using the prompts above or take any tangent you would like! If you have already written a post on this topic, feel free to submit that as well. Entries for the link up are due by next Wednesday, December 19th at midnight CST.  The full list of links will be posted on Thursday, December 20th. Please fill out the form below to submit your post.

As always, if you do not have a blog of your own, feel free to leave your thoughts in the comments of this post and we will link to your comment in the final list that goes up next Thursday. Thank you!

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